backport: merge bitcoin#22226, #22831, #23084, #22872, #23477, #23492, #23713, #23780, #23826, #23373, #24201, #24665, #22910, partial bitcoin#23025 (addrman backports: part 3)

backport: merge bitcoin#22226, #22831, #23084, #22872, #23477, #23492, #23713, #23780, #23826, #23373, #24201, #24665, #22910, partial bitcoin#23025 (addrman backports: part 3) #594