diff --git a/content/daily-notes/2024-11-28.md b/content/daily-notes/2024-11-28.md index e147743..bae7e7e 100644 --- a/content/daily-notes/2024-11-28.md +++ b/content/daily-notes/2024-11-28.md @@ -11,10 +11,12 @@ NYC is also one of my favorite cities in the world, but I never lived there long > the transience was what got to me. I’ve always wanted something very simple: a small group of close friends that I see consistently, week after week. friends I feel comfortable just sitting with. friends I can make my stupid absurdist jokes with, friends who will prioritize me by setting aside an entire evening rather than just “let’s catch up between 7-8pm three tuesdays from now.” I had a semblance of that kind of community in new york for a while, but by the end of my time there it was nonexistent. #### Meditations for Mortals Chapter 3 -Continuing the daily ritual of reading one chapter from _Meditations for Mortals_, here are a few quotes from Chapter 3 _“You need only face the consequences -On paying the price” +Continuing the daily ritual of reading one chapter from _Meditations for Mortals_, here are a few quotes from Chapter 3 _You need only face the consequences +On paying the price_ + +> “At some point, as you seek to spend more of your finite existence in the ways that feel most meaningful to you, the thought will inevitably occur to you that you can’t make a certain choice about your time, however much you’d like to, because the circumstances simply don’t allow it. The obstacle could be as weighty as the belief that you can’t walk away from a marriage or a dispiriting career, because of the emotional or financial impact on yourself or on others. Or it might be as mundane as the notion that you can’t spend half an hour on an exhilarating creative project today, because there are too many emails to be answered, or too many household chores that need completing first. These are valid concerns. But the idea that they eliminate all room for choice isn’t entirely correct. The truth, though it often makes people indignant to hear it, is that it’s almost never literally the case that you have to meet a work deadline, honor a commitment, answer an email, fulfill a family obligation, or anything else. The astounding reality – in the words of Sheldon B. Kopp, a genial and brilliant American psychotherapist who died[…]” + +> “Freedom isn’t a matter of somehow wriggling free of the costs of your choice – that’s never an option – but of realizing, as Kopp points out, that nothing stops you doing anything at all, so long as you’re willing to pay those costs. ” + +> “(It’s a particular peril among the progressive-minded, I’ve noticed, to take the fact that a given choice might be unfeasible for the underprivileged as a reason not to make it yourself. But unless it’s you who’s underprivileged, that’s an alibi, not an argument.) ” -Excerpt From -Meditations for Mortals -Oliver Burkeman -This material may be protected by copyright._ \ No newline at end of file