Add a C++ file to your project with following content and include it in the sources in your binding.gyp file.
This only works on Linux.
#include <node.h>
#include <dlfcn.h>
extern "C" NODE_EXTERN void node_module_register(void* mod)
{
auto base_ptr = dlopen("libnode.so", RTLD_NOW | RTLD_GLOBAL);
if (base_ptr == nullptr) return;
auto register_func = reinterpret_cast<decltype(&node_module_register)>(dlsym(base_ptr, "node_module_register"));
if (register_func == nullptr) return;
register_func(mod);
}